Monday, 1 September 2014

sex is s*x!


What is wrong here? Why can’t we mention “sex” in our conversation? Axn, Romedy now, Zee café, Star world, Star movies, HBO...go silence when characters say  such words!
“ You had ----“ Phoebe said to Monica.
But in the subtitle…”you had sex!”
Or as in some channels “you had s*x!”
 How hypocritical!
That is how it is on tv and in real life. You can have sex, but talking about it and saying “sex” is a taboo.
It’s not just “sex”  Even the word “whisper” gets the girls uncomfortable while it makes guys giggle in my class.
I announced  that they were gonna play  “the Chinese whisper”  in one of my classes  and that shocked them to the core. They froze for a few seconds. Why? “whisper” is a popular sanitary napkin brand!
What pisses me off (…oops! here’s another word!) is that most people are okay with this restriction. They throw the culture crap and say it doesn’t belong to our country – open talk about intimacy and even personal hygiene. Well I’m not for swearing either (which I need to work on myself) but when it is absolutely necessary why hesitate to mention “the words?”
It is not good to pretend like it doesn’t exist in our society. Ignorance is bliss but are we all ignorant? Our kids come to know about how girls get their period, masturbation and sex through their friends in school. I call this “extreme parenting” -  Overprotection on one side and just letting them deal with such important areas on their own on the other side.  Internet teaches them more than what they should know and it is the responsibility of the grownups to give them the actual truth or fact about things. But how many of us do that?
Why do we have to “whisper” such words? Why not say it loudly like it’s no sin?
In one of the class group discussions a student said that it was the girl’s mistake that she was gang raped in a moving bus and thrown away to die. He said that it was not in our culture to have a boy friend or to go out with a boy late in the evening. What was appalling was many students supported his view. We have,  as a society,  made a 20 year old think that way!
 Restrictions in the name of culture and that too only for women.  No offense to the gay community, I always root for them. But I wish all men become gay, and leave us alone!
All the restrictions do not make it any easier on any one. It is just like a boiling molten lava underneath that gushes out when a tiny pore forms on the surface.

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  2. What can we possibly expect from a society we live in considers making love in public more a deplorable behavior and making violence in public with a thumping pride in there hearts.To those people words like sex causes more uneasiness than words like war,violence than ever does.

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  3. Regarding rape I am thinking of writing elaborate on this but I think rape is just a assault on women, it has more to do with male chauvinism.Chastity which doesn't exist in any place suddenly coerced on women some and passed over generations by generations over the time till a point it was used by men to control women exclusively.This applies even to men who normally shouts against rape and rapists.For example consequences of effect of rape does on women has more to do with Sociologically and psycological impacts than physically does it.Consider that a man was sexually abused in a jail or any other sorts of institution , following day he can go on living with no guilty , uneasiness he will be mostly affected by physical pain, but for a women consider the situation she has to put herself most of the women even decided to take there life's(our media especially movies also reason for this they scarcely show any women went to live there rest of the lives ) and for the rest of the women who decided to live there normal life's , they can never be live there lives peacefully mostly they will be either alienated from the society or consider themselves to suicide because of honour.Note that honour applies to women only not to men in this case.

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    1. I agree with most of your opinions muthu palaniappan. I don't think that sexual assault against women will reduce even if the movies try. Thank you for your response.

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  4. nO mOre comMENts..

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