R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

Life itself seems hard enough some days, and a life without sex seems really hard to accept.  How do I live a life with no sex? It sucks big time. But not all days are difficult. It is during few days  before and after my period, that I struggle with the rushing emotions and the resulting frustration.  I know it has to do with the hormones and not  my mind, but it is so strong that nothing I do calms it down. I do everything I can to escape it, tasty meal from a good restaurant, tub of my favorite ice cream, anything…but nothing works.  Even music fails.  I know I am not the only one who goes through this. There are many who live a life without being able to enjoy the union of two bodies,  even the married ones! So here I am saluting the persons, married or divorced, who live a life with no sex.

sex is s*x!

What is wrong here? Why can’t we mention “sex” in our conversation? Axn, Romedy now, Zee café, Star world, Star movies, HBO...go silence when characters say  such words!

“ You had ----“ Phoebe said to Monica.

But in the subtitle…”you had sex!”

Or as in some channels “you had s*x!”

 How hypocritical!

That is how it is on tv and in real life. You can have sex, but talking about it and saying “sex” is a taboo.

It’s not just “sex”  Even the word “whisper” gets the girls uncomfortable while it makes guys giggle in my class.

I announced  that they were gonna play  “the Chinese whisper”  in one of my classes  and that shocked them to the core. They froze for a few seconds. Why? “whisper” is a popular sanitary napkin brand!

What pisses me off (…oops! here’s another word!) is that most people are okay with this restriction. They throw the culture crap and say it doesn’t belong to our country – open talk about intimacy and even personal hygiene. Well I’m not for swearing either (which I need to work on myself) but when it is absolutely necessary why hesitate to mention “the words?”

It is not good to pretend like it doesn’t exist in our society. Ignorance is bliss but are we all ignorant? Our kids come to know about how girls get their period, masturbation and sex through their friends in school. I call this “extreme parenting” -  Overprotection on one side and just letting them deal with such important areas on their own on the other side.  Internet teaches them more than what they should know and it is the responsibility of the grownups to give them the actual truth or fact about things. But how many of us do that?

Why do we have to “whisper” such words? Why not say it loudly like it’s no sin?

In one of the class group discussions a student said that it was the girl’s mistake that she was gang raped in a moving bus and thrown away to die. He said that it was not in our culture to have a boy friend or to go out with a boy late in the evening. What was appalling was many students supported his view. We have,  as a society,  made a 20 year old think that way!

 Restrictions in the name of culture and that too only for women.  No offense to the gay community, I always root for them. But I wish all men become gay, and leave us alone!

All the restrictions do not make it any easier on any one. It is just like a boiling molten lava underneath that gushes out when a tiny pore forms on the surface.