You, Me and Us.

Stumbling and falling in the mess that we cause  

Rising from it and calling it living

Running around looking for answers

Though when found would we stop?

We drink we breathe

We cry when we bleed

But you do to me what he did to you

And so it goes

Till there’s no feelings to feel anymore.

 Negative? Nah!  We label and toss away

But appreciative and grateful you will be

And when your eyes water

At least your heart knows to smile.

The right and the wrong

The gleeful and the glum

Now that’s who we are!

 

People are Nuts!

Basically all Nuts are good. They are healthier too than the cheaper tastier yet unhealthy snack.

 My favorite kind is the Walnuts. It requires no seasonings no condiments. But they are so expensive and finding the fresh kind makes them hard to get. Sometimes when I do have the money for it and when I do find them, it goes wrong, as I end up with a bag of stale walnuts. When it could have been great it goes waste with a big disappointment. But that doesn’t mean I won’t take the risk of buying another bag next time. I will always love walnuts.  

Some nuts need extra work to be done to make them likeable. Like Almonds, they are kind of chewy and not that great if you have them as they are. They transform into crispy and wonderful when roasted. Yes, a little work but they can become delicious.

Cashew – oh! When roasted in a little butter with a tiny pinch of salt and pepper can take me to a beautiful far off place way beyond the skies. But I purposely, so consciously avoid buying it as I know that they are not good for me.

 Pistachio – needs salt. But if you don’t like salty snack like me, then it is not for you. Pistachio and I can never have a good time. Sad but I don’t cry over that, as there are other Nuts for me.

And some Nuts no matter what you do, or what you add to it, still makes you nauseous. All we can do is stay away from it and understand that it’s not the fault of the Nut, it’s the hand that picked it.

Are men smarter in relationships?

I guess they might be. Shocking yeah!

 My feelings towards men are as confusing as it is understanding a woman for men.  I am still learning new things about me and it is amazing when that happens. I  have this wtf moment!  My mind goes “wtf you took these many years to realize this?!”  I have started learning from “them”  because they seem to be more relaxed and happier than women. Here are the things we have to learn from men

1.  not wanting to be special

Many problems arise because women want to be treated special. A guy looks at himself as a guy simple.  He never wants to be treated any differently  than others. He loves being one with the crowd. But women? I can’t even wear the same dress as another woman. It is not just expecting others to treat me special that makes cracks in the relationship, but I treat myself like I am not ordinary. That is where the drama starts. When something, anything happens we tend to exaggerate the event and the feelings associated with it. And so tears and turmoil!

2. not for decorative

Yeah women know better to beautify any space . We have a knack for such things. But guys know how not to complicate a relationship and keep it  clean. I am not saying that they know to keep a successful relationship. But they keep it much simpler than we do.  I could doubt the foundation of the relationship if certain words are missing or certain acts are forgotten.  Forget their birthday, Not a problem to them! I still think about what was gifted to me years back and wonder if he loved me at all!

3. not keeping a stupid  pyramid

This is the major mistake that girls do.  We think of “him” as our world and forget about friends and sometimes even family. ‘He’ is put on a pedestal, huge efforts and time  are dedicated on his behalf; in a way that even the guy begins to believe that he is more than what he is worth. But a guy never ends or ignores his friends. He doesn’t have a pyramid of priorities. It’s all ‘plain’ to him.

 My Guy

My Guy

My Guy

 My Guy

 Pyramid of a Woman in love

                               (Add Work, Family, Friends below those levels and do picture a triangle too around "My Guy")

                      

4. not wanting to share everything     

This is the best and the most difficult lesson to learn. Ancient philosophers included, people of all  ages in history say that A woman is a Mystery. How silly! I think they overlooked the genius of men. I have this uncontrollable urge to share everything that happened from the moment I opened my eyes till the moment I opened the doors for him. Men don’t talk nor do they want to listen to us go on and on about every little detail about every little thing that had happened that day or from the day we were born. We perceive their zen like trance to be indifference. Why do we have this need to dump it all out? Yeah it is good for us but I don’t know if it is good for the relationship. He is just a guy, who went through the day like anyone else, not a therapist.

 P.S.

 They may be "smarter" but nature can not be manipulated. The gender fight will never end as long as we are true to our nature.